I may not know all of the secrets to success, but the way to failure is in trying to please everybody…this cannot be done. If you are seeking the approval of others then you will never go for the things you truly desire in life. Because you will have people all around you say you are crazy and will try to discourage you or make you think that you don’t have what it takes to get those things.
The trap everyone falls into in trying to win approval is “what will they say if I do this?” This should be of little interest to you for if they think it, they will say it and when we are gone, they will still think and say what they felt and no amount of approval seeking from you or I will ever change their feelings or thoughts.
Even if we changed the way we are 100% to please those that presently don’t agree with our ways…the bad thing is that the ones that like us now, wouldn’t be able to stand us then and you wouldn’t be happy at all. Because if you are conforming to what those who disagree with you say about your business and the things you are striving to reach then you will not be living your destiny….a no win situation.
Watch out in your life for the ‘negative influence of other people’…every group or every organization has a N.I.O.P (ny-op)…they love to be negative and they are the type of person that brightens up a room, the minute they ‘walk out of it’. You have met these people before, they walk through life with mental malnutrition between their ears…listen to someone like this for 5 minutes and you start believing that life is horrible and you’ll never be able to accomplish what you so desire to accomplish.
You must understand that when you are up and positive, you make others feel ill and the reason is that your positive and alive approach to living, makes their ‘deadness’ so much more apparent and real. Most people are actually mentally dead but still moving and they have accepted their lot in life without the slightest intention of seeking any changes for the better. We see this negative feeling in people when we are trying to share our business opportunities and dreams with them..you can see in their eyes…they are not interested and will do as much as they can to discourage you from trying to improve your position in doing this they have not given you the approval you were initially looking for. But it is up to you to realize that in their eyes you see only jealousy and envy and the fear which they hold, and the failure of them to improve their own lives.
Walk to the beat of only one drummer and that needs to be you…you will never win everyone over and you will never be able to please everyone.
Half-way through in our Willing to Win series! Hope all of you are enjoying what you are reading and being inspired to WIN!
5. FREE OF FEAR:
The one single thing that rules most people’s life is fear. Most of what we do throughout our life is fear motivated. We want to succeed because we are afraid of failure, or we want money because we’re afraid of poverty. Have you ever notice that the thing you don’t want is the thing that runs your life? You don’t want people to control you, so they control you…you don’t want to feel weak, so you feel weak…you don’t want to be rejected, so your rejected, you don’t want to be sick, so your sick, you don’t want to be nervous in front of people, so your nervous in front of people, you don’t want to be broke, so your broke.
When we are willing to experience the things we don’t want in our life then we can be free of them. When we learn to give up all of these fears within our life, then we can be free of them because we are choosing not to fear them but face them as a choice. Whatever we chose to do in life, we must choose it as a choice and not because we are fear motivated. One of the worst things that we can do is let our fears immobilize us into a state of zombie like inaction…you can only have in life what you are not afraid of. Associate with those who are looking for the same things you are trying to achieve and copy that life style, don’t let anything or anyone hold you back or talk you down from your desired goals. Find someone who has beat the ‘fear’ bug and get educated on it and learn from it.
Well that was short and sweet and too the point! Make up in your mind what it is that you want and don’t be afraid of it! Don’t be afraid of those around you and what they may think about your “unrealistic” or “crazy” dreams…. They don’t understand, but they will when you decide that you won’t let fear rule and you and those dreams become a reality in your life!
Sorry I’m behind on my posting. I was sick last weekend so the last few days have been playing catch up! But here’s point number 4 for you so enjoy and start Winning!
4. CREATE A FUTURE INSTEAD OF DEFENDING THE PAST:
Blaming our current place in life on anything such as: our parents, our mates, our friends or some other event of our past is a total waste of time and creative energy. Your life growing up could have been horrible, hard and less than to be desired. And maybe life now is too and you may be very well justified in feeling the way that you do, you may be right and everyone else is wrong, BUT you must leave this in the past and press forward moving on knowing that you can be successful, you can change your life, your current circumstances into what you desire them to be. The only person who can change your outlook on life is you! And YES the process may seem long and hard in itself, but if you make up your mind that all the excess baggage of past and evil memories will not hinder you from moving forward in your life to attain the life you desire to have! To LIVE YOUR DREAMS and Be Fulfilled! We cannot change the past, BUT we can change how the past affects our current and future life!
The perfect verse in the Word of God for this very topic is
Philippians 3:13
“…forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,”
Part of being wise is learning from the past. Don’t get caught up in blaming yourself or anyone else. Whatever has happened in your life is for a purpose and one of those purposes is so that you can help others who may have or even be experiencing the same things you have. You must put yourself into a mindset and position to help those around you!Turn your negative experience into positive and change your life and help someone else change theirs too!
Forgetting those things which are behind and press forward look around and find your purpose in life! We all have one!
Make that your goal and change the world starting with yours!
To Your Success,
Jessica Moffitt
By the way I wanted to share with you what I do as a hobby which is very beneficial to my wealth!
I was on a Webinar a couple nights ago for the marketing system I’m using to build my business.
The man directing the webinar said something very profound that I just had to share with you all!
